Couples need to be able to have a balance of separateness and togetherness, she added.You probably want a lot from just one person: A companion, a passionate lover, good parent and more, so issues can come up after Higgins presents couples with “an expectation inventory.” When you live outside of this world (Los Angeles/the acting industry) you never really think about where your favorite tv shows and movies are actually filmed. The closest comparison I can make in terms of relocating would be that of a military family.