Within days of my daughter announcing she was pregnant, Dr Hugh Jolly – our constant companion in raising our three children – was pulled from a bookshelf and dusted down, and books by the new gurus of the child-raising arts began arriving in the post from Amazon: Gina Ford, Elizabeth Pantley… “Are they for Celeste?” “No, they’re for us.” “But we’re not the ones having the baby.” “They’ll be useful.”